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Lose Your Focus

on May 30, 2012

I am about to ruin the movie “500 Days of Summer” for you. If this is going to upset or anger you, I’m going to ask you to stop reading. Stop reading and go watch “500 Days of Summer,” then begin reading again. I make no apologies for this, as I promise to use this spoiler alert for good and not evil.

The movie “500 Days of Summer” is about the ups and downs of a 20-something relationship that teeters between friends-with-benefits, true love, and bitter hatred. Throughout the movie, the main character, Tom, befriends, falls for, and ultimately loses the girl he thought was “the one,” Summer. But by the final scene in the movie, Tom has pulled his life together and is slowly beginning to move on. He is interviewing for a position at an architecture firm when he meets his competition, a sweet young thing named Autumn. (If you ask me, the whole Summer/Autumn thing is cute in a not-really-at-all-creative way, but I love this movie none-the-less.)

The following exchange happens between Tom and Autumn as they discuss one of Tom’s favorite places in Los Angeles. It was this place in which he took Summer and later became the place where he finally got his closure from her:

Autumn: Have I seen you before?

Tom: Me? I don’t think so.

Autumn: Do you ever go to Angela’s Plaza?

Tom: Yes… That’s like my favorite spot in the city.

Autumn: Yeah, except for the parking lots.

Tom: Yeah, yeah I agree.

Autumn: Yeah, yeah I think I’ve seen you there.

Tom: Really?

Autumn: Yeah…

Tom: I haven’t seen you?

Autumn: You must not have been looking…

Part of being young and driven is the idea that we should make goals and focus on them. Perhaps ONLY them. That we should know what we want and what we’re willing to sacrifice in order to get it. But sometimes we need to step back and look at the bigger picture: What great things are we missing because we are focusing so hard on the good things?

“Sometimes on the way to a dream you get lost and find a better one.”

This is one of my favorite quotes, and lately it has been inspiring me to lose some of my focus on things that I shouldn’t be wasting too much time on.  All of us spend so much time trying to make things happen – which is great – but you have to admit that sometimes life’s best moments are those happy accidents you weren’t really planning on.

You’ll find whatever it is you’re looking for. You just might need to stop looking so hard.

Spoiler alert over.

Another wonderful Guest Blog Post from Jess Brown. She is a seasoned guest blogger, and we are thrilled to have her share her gift of optimism with us.  If you would like to write from us, we’d love to hear from you. Please email your posts to


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