— Peter Drucker
At times, you may find that life can be a bit bumpy. In fact, those bumps may be large enough to make you confuse which direction is up.
The only thing that can make that worse is using out-dated methods to smooth out the wrinkles. Finding what works for you can be the difference between a small dip and a solid crash-and-burn.
You can’t always avoid every up and down, but you can remind yourself of how much you do know and trust your instincts. You’ve moved on, you’ve learned a lot.
Pilot your own life.
In the morning, light pours into my bedroom. It’s kind of a pain to fall asleep with the blinds open and the curtains pulled back, but it’s worth it to be greeted by light. Then, for me, it’s baked oatmeal and one shot of espresso. I’m not a morning person, and I probably haven’t had a single thought about anything worth remembering until I’ve begun to absorb some caffeine. A quick aside- I’ve never understood why people don’t drink more espresso, is it the whip cream thing? And then, a clean shave. I (almost) always use a sharp razor, not a Gillette, and have replaced that blue goop with fluffy and fragrant lavender shave soap applied by a badger hair shave brush.
I’m sharing my routine with you, because I’ve found that from the first ray of sunshine to the first bite of oatmeal, the last sip of espresso to the last bit of shave soap, I tend to concentrate on how lucky I am to enjoy these little luxuries. They are simple joys. When you appreciate your situation first thing in the morning, you start the day off right. And when you start the day off right, the rest of the day tends to follow suit.
If you’re a snooze button 12 times, rush out of bed and into the car to sit in traffic on the way to the job you dread kind of person, consider what you give up each morning. You’ve missed the chance to be gracious, to take a few minutes to yourself to think about your day, to think about what you can do for someone else today. By the time you’re expressing you’re road rage, you’ve given up the chance to work out that day or your opportunity to reflect in your journal. Approaching the beginning of your day differently might change your outlook on school or work, especially if you’ve taken a few minutes to give thanks that you have gainful employment and think about how you can make a difference at work that day. An improved outlook is often the key to improved performance.
So much of this blog is about having a positive and gracious attitude. The reason is simple- life is better that way. The time to establish that attitude is first thing in the morning.
It’s not really our style to write without a quote or clip for inspiration. But I’ve been struggling with writer’s block all year, and today my VP of Operations shared a metaphor that I knew I had to pass on to you.
Consider a man standing face to face with an elephant. When you ask him to describe his experience, he says that when the elephant flaps his giant ears, the man is cooled by the breeze. He describes looking past the long lashes and into the eyes, into the gentle and wise soul of his huge companion. He describes being wrapped in the pachyderm’s powerful trunk and passing handfuls of peanuts through the ivory tusks and into the mammoth mouth.
Now consider a second man who is standing on the wrong side of the same elephant. When he tells his tale (pun intended) he says “It’s a giant butt. No really…it’s just a giant butt. Baby got back. Yesterday, this thing peed, and I about drowned. It pooped, and I’m still looking for my car. It stinks. A lot.”
Empathy is seeing the whole elephant. When you’re standing up front, don’t forget that it’s not all motherhood and apple pie. Somebody’s standing on the other side and dealing with the consequences of the actions taken at the front. The view’s not so magnificent, and they’re going to want to join you up front soon. When you’re standing on the back-side, consider what’s going on up front. When is it your turn to take over at the helm? When you’re up front, wouldn’t you want to be sure that someone was going to clean up the peanuts from the other side? Empathy is about seeing the whole elephant.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
Don’t exhaust yourself on a day that has already ended. Use that energy to move on and into the next day, full of hope and opportunity.
— Lao Tzu
May you find strength in the ones who love you. These are the ones who risk heartbreak to show you they care. Love is unconditional. No matter what, they choose to love you.
May you gain courage from each person to whom you give your heart openly. You lay your heart on the line every time you care for them. To love someone is to be the most genuine version of yourself. That vulnerability is unparalleled.
You have fought for love. You have fought for your happiness. Today is a day to celebrate love in its may forms and revel in the joy love can bring.
I hope that today (and every day) you find a moment to realize how much love surrounds you and know you are more loved than you can possibly imagine.
Love and light,